This.Denny Crane wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 7:48 am If you don't enjoy your job but you stay in it for what it affords you , then the best that you can hope for is to suffer in comfort. However, if your job disturbs you to the extent that you spend significant amounts of time resenting being then chances are you are exchanging health for wealth.
Every stress leaves an indelible scar and the organism pays for it by becoming a little older Hans Selye
How important is it that you enjoy your job?
I also think that nowadays, the main advice I’d give to young folk is that whatever they choose now isn’t what they’ll do forever. Most people even of my generation (born in the 70s) are having multiple different careers, except maybe where it’s vocational e.g. medicine, law, although even then people are getting out in their forties and fifties.
Do the high stress stuff when you’re in your twenties and thirties because it’ll kill you in your forties and fifties.
If you want to change, change. In the long run your kids will prefer to have happy healthy parents for longer than one more new game console In twenty years and a dead father.
Edit - although my primary piece of advice to young people is ‘don’t be a dick’. It covers most things.
Do the high stress stuff when you’re in your twenties and thirties because it’ll kill you in your forties and fifties.
If you want to change, change. In the long run your kids will prefer to have happy healthy parents for longer than one more new game console In twenty years and a dead father.
Edit - although my primary piece of advice to young people is ‘don’t be a dick’. It covers most things.
And are there two g’s in Bugger Off?
Same advice i have given my son and others, if you hate it, dont be there. You have to decide what your priorities are, if its raking as much cash as you possibly can in, but the trade off is a job you hate, i have no sympathy, you chose that particular bed to lie in, dont fucking complain to me about it. Personally, i would trade off a bit of cash for enjoying the 30% of my life i spend at work.
It’s difficult for many people though. Because some people do love every minute of their job. Just through the luck of the hand life has dealt them.
But then others who aren’t so lucky see that and ask, naturally enough, “Why can’t I have that?”
When it comes to job satisfaction, the grass actually is often greener on the other side of the fence.
But then others who aren’t so lucky see that and ask, naturally enough, “Why can’t I have that?”
When it comes to job satisfaction, the grass actually is often greener on the other side of the fence.
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Fairly important but in reality I think you do have to sacrifice some enjoyment for stress / drudgery to earn some decent wonga.
Being a travel writer might sound nice but in real life being a broke travel writer might not be so ace.
Being a travel writer might sound nice but in real life being a broke travel writer might not be so ace.
How long do you have to hate a job before chucking it in though?ASMO wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 10:37 am Same advice i have given my son and others, if you hate it, dont be there. You have to decide what your priorities are, if its raking as much cash as you possibly can in, but the trade off is a job you hate, i have no sympathy, you chose that particular bed to lie in, dont fucking complain to me about it. Personally, i would trade off a bit of cash for enjoying the 30% of my life i spend at work.
I’ve had a full year of hell, twice in my career and then things change (also known as; cunts leave). If I’d have left, I wouldn’t have achieved what I’ve achieved and gotten the fulfilment stuff I mentioned earlier.
When do you judge when to hold or fold ASMO?
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Ha! I felt like that in the past. A lot.
But as Confucius said; before embarking on a quest of vengeance, first, dig two graves.
I’ve found that The majority cunts get theirs in the end.
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I can see how being paid to smoke pole might cause a man to be somewhat sanguine.Shanky’s mate wrote: ↑Mon Aug 31, 2020 2:27 am Short answer... yes.
There was a sort of movement 20 or so years back selling self help books and the like based around finding the ‘perfect job’ and a heavy suggestion that not working in a vocation you loved and were endlessly fulfilled by was a tragic waste of your essential life force and a penance on your soul, or something like that. Selling that idea to anyone and especially your kids is setting them up to fail. Very few find a job they can genuinely love and look forward to. Most seem to endure it all. Some... the cluey ones, find a way to be content and balance the pros and cons. That’s a more realistic idea to sell your kids. Find a balance. Engage yourself in meaningful pursuits and if that isn’t your vocation then use that to support those pursuits.
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Better to bite down, like Mat. He knows...
Enjoy is a strong word, with a lot of emotional content. I'm not sure that it's important that I enjoy my job. But I think I have to find it interesting or challenging. I don't think I could cope particularly doing something exceedingly monotonous or repetitive, although I'm well aware that many people have to do jobs like that
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Uncle fester wrote: ↑Tue Sep 01, 2020 11:07 am Like bits of my job but loathe plenty of it.
Dream of doing something different but it's hard to give up that security net.
Like most engineers I'm sociable with, I won't be encouraging kids to get into it.
That's the most depressing; & challenging thing the west has to deal with.
It's all very well finally copping on to the importance of STEM to a healthy modern economy; but if the parents who did the graft to get a STEM qualification, watch gobshites get ahead, & earn more, without having to do the hours they do; they'd be worse parents if they didn't tell their kids to skip STEM, & to take the gobshite career path, because that would ultimately be better for their career.
It's the usual case with Politicians; ignore what they say; watch what they do !
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In the absence of you having a Dad or any friends here is my sage advice: Not long.Random1 wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 2:03 pmHow long do you have to hate a job before chucking it in though?ASMO wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 10:37 am Same advice i have given my son and others, if you hate it, dont be there. You have to decide what your priorities are, if its raking as much cash as you possibly can in, but the trade off is a job you hate, i have no sympathy, you chose that particular bed to lie in, dont fucking complain to me about it. Personally, i would trade off a bit of cash for enjoying the 30% of my life i spend at work.
I’ve had a full year of hell, twice in my career and then things change (also known as; cunts leave). If I’d have left, I wouldn’t have achieved what I’ve achieved and gotten the fulfilment stuff I mentioned earlier.
When do you judge when to hold or fold ASMO?
Life's too fuckin' short, son.
My actual dad advises the opposite.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:06 pmIn the absence of you having a Dad or any friends here is my sage advice: Not long.Random1 wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 2:03 pmHow long do you have to hate a job before chucking it in though?ASMO wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 10:37 am Same advice i have given my son and others, if you hate it, dont be there. You have to decide what your priorities are, if its raking as much cash as you possibly can in, but the trade off is a job you hate, i have no sympathy, you chose that particular bed to lie in, dont fucking complain to me about it. Personally, i would trade off a bit of cash for enjoying the 30% of my life i spend at work.
I’ve had a full year of hell, twice in my career and then things change (also known as; cunts leave). If I’d have left, I wouldn’t have achieved what I’ve achieved and gotten the fulfilment stuff I mentioned earlier.
When do you judge when to hold or fold ASMO?
Life's too fuckin' short, son.
Resilience in the face of adversity - don’t let the cunts beat you and don’t let them force you out of a job unless it’s on your terms.
Staying power.
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Only a year?Random1 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:19 pmMy actual dad advises the opposite.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:06 pmIn the absence of you having a Dad or any friends here is my sage advice: Not long.Random1 wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 2:03 pm
How long do you have to hate a job before chucking it in though?
I’ve had a full year of hell, twice in my career and then things change (also known as; cunts leave). If I’d have left, I wouldn’t have achieved what I’ve achieved and gotten the fulfilment stuff I mentioned earlier.
When do you judge when to hold or fold ASMO?
Life's too fuckin' short, son.
Resilience in the face of adversity - don’t let the cunts beat you and don’t let them force you out of a job unless it’s on your terms.
Staying power.
Your Dad's right.
Harden up millennial!
Twice though. Twice.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:27 pmOnly a year?Random1 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:19 pmMy actual dad advises the opposite.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Fri Sep 04, 2020 6:06 pm
In the absence of you having a Dad or any friends here is my sage advice: Not long.
Life's too fuckin' short, son.
Resilience in the face of adversity - don’t let the cunts beat you and don’t let them force you out of a job unless it’s on your terms.
Staying power.
Your Dad's right.
Harden up millennial!
I’m a double hard bastard, me.
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It's all resourcing. Why do the job with two people when you can get away with one and replace them after they've cracked up?fishfoodie wrote: ↑Thu Sep 03, 2020 11:41 pmUncle fester wrote: ↑Tue Sep 01, 2020 11:07 am Like bits of my job but loathe plenty of it.
Dream of doing something different but it's hard to give up that security net.
Like most engineers I'm sociable with, I won't be encouraging kids to get into it.
That's the most depressing; & challenging thing the west has to deal with.
It's all very well finally copping on to the importance of STEM to a healthy modern economy; but if the parents who did the graft to get a STEM qualification, watch gobshites get ahead, & earn more, without having to do the hours they do; they'd be worse parents if they didn't tell their kids to skip STEM, & to take the gobshite career path, because that would ultimately be better for their career.
It's the usual case with Politicians; ignore what they say; watch what they do !
Nothing has blown up yet so it must be the right way to do things!
That said, I'm sitting on the couch with the five year old watching videos about high voltage electricity so there's little doubt about where he'll be ending up.