What would the active be? 'because he became a father'?
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He fathered a child.
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People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
Speaking of doors, people who don't realise that you can use both leaves of double doors. It's not rocket science.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 11:04 pm People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
I think correct etiquette calls for you to pull them back by their hair.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 11:04 pm People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
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Doesn't the tense cause a problem there. "because he's become a father" suggests this is a new situation, a change in circumstances. "because he fathered a child" could've happened at any point.GogLais wrote: ↑Wed Jan 06, 2021 2:43 pmHe fathered a child.
Good point, add "recently" to "fathered a child". I suppose I have puritan views about fatherhood, it's something you do, not something that happens to you.
I get that. I would have thought the passive voice in this case wouldn't be about a change in his status, but more along the lines of "a child has been fathered". In the original sentence it's still clear that he is the cause!
I think maybe I'm just too used to the really egregious examples that come from police forces. "A person was injured during an officer-involved shooting" and all that.
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“Because he fathered a child” just sounds silly. As would, “She’s mothered a child.”
We might say a mum “has just given birth” but there’s no equivalent for the dad at that particular moment. So on the birth of a kid, for the dad, “...has become a dad” sounds perfectly fine.
We might say a mum “has just given birth” but there’s no equivalent for the dad at that particular moment. So on the birth of a kid, for the dad, “...has become a dad” sounds perfectly fine.
FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:03 am “Because he fathered a child” just sounds silly. As would, “She’s mothered a child.”
We might say a mum “has just given birth” but there’s no equivalent for the dad at that particular moment. So on the birth of a kid, for the dad, “...has become a dad” sounds perfectly fine.
"Fathered a child" is quite a common phrase, though. I've never heard "mothering" with that meaning.
However, to me, "fathering a child" implies having little more to do with the child than being a sperm donor, "became a dad" implies being part of a family.
Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
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I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
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Good shout, but I must say I do share the poms' frustration with yanks taking logical sayings and buggering them up.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
"I could care less" being one such example. David Mitchell has had quite a good rant about this.
I can see why that would grate. But language often veers off from logic anyway. What does the “It’s” in “It’s raining” take the place of? The sentence makes no logical sense, but conveys meaning perfectly well. The same with, “I could care less”. It conveys meaning perfectly well in context, even if it’s daft in terms of logic.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 1:33 amGood shout, but I must say I do share the poms' frustration with yanks taking logical sayings and buggering them up.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
"I could care less" being one such example. David Mitchell has had quite a good rant about this.
FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 6:28 amI can see why that would grate. But language often veers off from logic anyway. What does the “It’s” in “It’s raining” take the place of? The sentence makes no logical sense, but conveys meaning perfectly well. The same with, “I could care less”. It conveys meaning perfectly well in context, even if it’s daft in terms of logic.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 1:33 amGood shout, but I must say I do share the poms' frustration with yanks taking logical sayings and buggering them up.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
"I could care less" being one such example. David Mitchell has had quite a good rant about this.
Isn't "it" "the weather" in that case? - the weather is raining, the weather is hot, the weather is snowing etc.
In French they use the "to do" verb for weather, "it does some sunshine", "it does rain", it makes sense when you hear it from birth but it sounds clunky as a learner from another language.
I'm all for evolution of language, I have no problem with using a verb as a noun*, "verbing" if you will, but "I could care less" winds me up beyond reason.
*though when someone suggested "let's beer" I felt like smashing his face in.
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I remember holding the door open for a girl in a nightclub years ago. She literally looked at me in disgust and tutted. I remember being quite flabbergasted - more so when my best mate married her a few years laterJimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 11:04 pm People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
Just how ugly are you?!Mr Bubble Gum wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 11:57 amI remember holding the door open for a girl in a nightclub years ago. She literally looked at me in disgust and tutted. I remember being quite flabbergasted - more so when my best mate married her a few years laterJimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 11:04 pm People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that her disgust was because she took offence at a man daring to suggest that, as a strong, powerful and independent woman, she was incapable of opening the door on her own. If so then there's every likelihood that she is uglier than him, and may well have had blue or red hair.
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Oh, I was an absolute dish back then, that’s one of the reasons I was so dumbfoundedJM2K6 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 12:54 pmJust how ugly are you?!Mr Bubble Gum wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 11:57 amI remember holding the door open for a girl in a nightclub years ago. She literally looked at me in disgust and tutted. I remember being quite flabbergasted - more so when my best mate married her a few years laterJimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Thu Jan 14, 2021 11:04 pm People who don't thank you for holding the door for them. Even worse, at a set of doors when people don't thank you, then walk through the door ahead and don't hold it for you!
QQ: Would it be considered overly aggressive to reach through the door and pull said person back through it by the collar?
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This is a fair assessment, although she’s far from ugly. My initial impression - that she was a bit of a daft bastard has been underlined on numerous occasions over the ensuing years, sadly.notfatcat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 1:25 pm I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that her disgust was because she took offence at a man daring to suggest that, as a strong, powerful and independent woman, she was incapable of opening the door on her own. If so then there's every likelihood that she is uglier than him, and may well have had blue or red hair.
I was making a joke.notfatcat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 1:25 pm I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that her disgust was because she took offence at a man daring to suggest that, as a strong, powerful and independent woman, she was incapable of opening the door on her own. If so then there's every likelihood that she is uglier than him, and may well have had blue or red hair.
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Am I missing something here? "It's" ins simply a contraction of "it is", in this instances, a shortening of "it is raining" to "it's raining". Not to be confused with 'its .... is raining down on ..."Tichtheid wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:58 amFujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 6:28 amI can see why that would grate. But language often veers off from logic anyway. What does the “It’s” in “It’s raining” take the place of? The sentence makes no logical sense, but conveys meaning perfectly well. The same with, “I could care less”. It conveys meaning perfectly well in context, even if it’s daft in terms of logic.Jimmy Smallsteps wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 1:33 am
Good shout, but I must say I do share the poms' frustration with yanks taking logical sayings and buggering them up.
"I could care less" being one such example. David Mitchell has had quite a good rant about this.
Isn't "it" "the weather" in that case? - the weather is raining, the weather is hot, the weather is snowing etc.
In French they use the "to do" verb for weather, "it does some sunshine", "it does rain", it makes sense when you hear it from birth but it sounds clunky as a learner from another language.
I'm all for evolution of language, I have no problem with using a verb as a noun*, "verbing" if you will, but "I could care less" winds me up beyond reason.
*though when someone suggested "let's beer" I felt like smashing his face in.
It's downright fowl.mat the expat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:58 pmKFC is always disappointing - never as nice as you remember
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I find small independent food shops do a much better job of fried chicken, generally speaking.mat the expat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:58 pmKFC is always disappointing - never as nice as you remember
My father-in-law is battling cancer and on the home straight. Daughter went in to see him yesterday and watched him try to eat - he couldn't stomach the hospital food.mat the expat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:58 pmKFC is always disappointing - never as nice as you remember
She said she would go and get KFC, taters and gravy and the nurse gave her a great thumbs up.
Went to KFC in Wellington South and said that she was placing the order and it would be Roy's last ever KFC and would they make it their best ever. She only wanted 2 pieces and she said that they were absolutely awesome. The store manager wouldn't let her pay. He scoffed it down and had a huge smile when she left, and so did the nurse.
That doesn't annoy me ... but I hate KFC.
I drink and I forget things.
Edward - can I shout you a lunch early next week?Ted. wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 11:42 pmIt's downright fowl.mat the expat wrote: ↑Sun Jan 17, 2021 10:58 pmKFC is always disappointing - never as nice as you remember
I drink and I forget things.
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Logged in to work, had to change password afterwards but couldn't for the life of me remember what password was to change, despite having just entered it.
Had to zone out and let muscle memory do it.
Would love to know what causes that blank.
Had to zone out and let muscle memory do it.
Would love to know what causes that blank.
Have you been tested for the bad kind of AIDS?TheNatalShark wrote: ↑Mon Jan 18, 2021 9:17 am Logged in to work, had to change password afterwards but couldn't for the life of me remember what password was to change, despite having just entered it.
Had to zone out and let muscle memory do it.
Would love to know what causes that blank.
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That's what Post-its are forTheNatalShark wrote: ↑Mon Jan 18, 2021 9:17 am Logged in to work, had to change password afterwards but couldn't for the life of me remember what password was to change, despite having just entered it.
Had to zone out and let muscle memory do it.
Would love to know what causes that blank.
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Ok boomerSandstorm wrote: ↑Mon Jan 18, 2021 11:19 amThat's what Post-its are forTheNatalShark wrote: ↑Mon Jan 18, 2021 9:17 am Logged in to work, had to change password afterwards but couldn't for the life of me remember what password was to change, despite having just entered it.
Had to zone out and let muscle memory do it.
Would love to know what causes that blank.
Language is for communication.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
As such, it should be fairly rigidly defined.
All due respect, but this is simplistic hogwash.Rinkals wrote: ↑Tue Jan 19, 2021 6:08 amLanguage is for communication.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
As such, it should be fairly rigidly defined.
Well, what is language used for if not for communication?FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Tue Jan 19, 2021 7:42 amAll due respect, but this is simplistic hogwash.Rinkals wrote: ↑Tue Jan 19, 2021 6:08 amLanguage is for communication.FujiKiwi wrote: ↑Sat Jan 16, 2021 10:54 am Yeah, good call. “ Has just become a dad” sounds right.
I’m an English teacher and the only thing that grinds my gears is people who pontificate about using English properly, and lament a supposed dropping away in standards.
Language evolves, constantly spiraling off into interesting mutations. That’s what makes it great.
As such, it should be fairly rigidly defined.
The fact that we have multiple languages in the world today is a result of human communication developing outside of rigidly defined parameters.
Multiple languages are a barrier to universal understanding and underpin tribal divisions which fuel conflict and inhibit the spread of scientific knowledge.
I agree that language is for communication.Rinkals wrote: ↑Tue Jan 19, 2021 8:22 am
Well, what is language used for if not for communication?
The fact that we have multiple languages in the world today is a result of human communication developing outside of rigidly defined parameters.
Multiple languages are a barrier to universal understanding and underpin tribal divisions which fuel conflict and inhibit the spread of scientific knowledge.
But one of the core characteristics of language is that it doesn't fit "rigidly defined parameters". It's endlessly creative and evolving.
Whether you see that as good or bad is beside the point. It's what language is.